8 Quick tips on how to be an amazing parent

We are at an era of fast food, fast cars and fast relationships, where parenting involves a certain amount of discretion. There is no 1 formula or 1 standard rule that can be followed for all children. Different children have different needs, different levels of expressions of love hate and anger. As it is said

Parenting isn’t a practice it’s a daily learning experience.

 

8 QUICK TIPS ON HOW TO BE AN AMAZING PARENT

  1. GIVE THEM TRUE LOVE – giving true love doesn’t mean catering to all their needs, giving them the best and most expensive gifts etc or giving them whatever they want when they throw a tantrum. Giving true love means willing to be unpopular and still doing the best for them and what’s good for them. “Love means giving your child that undivided attention and time “.
    A child needs 4 hugs a day to make him/ her feel loved. Cuddle your child and make him/ her feel warm and protected with your love.
  2.  ALLOW HIM/HER TO BECOME RESPONSIBLE – From making small decisions like what to wear for a party to big decisions like choosing a career allow your child to take on responsibility for his/her own decision. At times the motherly concern may want to take a decision when you know your child is going on the wrong path. That can be done by giving your child your opinion, don’t enforce it on the child. “Mistakes are the stepping stones to learning “ Allow your child to make mistakes in order to learn .
  3. LET THEM BE – Let them become whatever they have to become. Don’t try to mould them based on your experiences and understanding of life. Your child need not do what you did in your life, Rather your child should do thinks that you didn’t even dare to think in your life. That will make the world progress.
  4. KEEP UPDATING YOURSELF AND BE INTETERESTED IN WHAT THEY ARE INTERESTED IN – From fashion to fun know what’s trending. Facebook , Twitter ,Instagram ,Music and T.V Shows are some topics of their interest . Lend them your ears and listen to their stories that helps them feel wanted, loved and respected. Discuss topics like sports, new technology, a new show on TV, as today’s kids are digital natives . “The worst communication problem is that we don’t listen to understand “.
  5. BRING OUT THE CHILD INSIDE YOU WHEN YOU ARE WITH CHILDREN - Laugh with your child, listen to his jokes, crawl with him, have an ice cream in the rain with him, forget your diet for a day and eat some yummy pizza with your child. This will not only help you bring out the child inside you but will also build a stronger bond with your child.
  6. TEACH YOUR CHILD TO EARN BROWNIE POINTS – Teach your child how to wait, We all want instant gratification and instant results just like Maggie noodles we lack patience in this rat race. Teach your child how to earn what he desires. Example – Make a chart for 30 days and tell your child if you get up early and get ready on time daily, I will give you an extra hour of play station or extra pocket money for the month at the end of 30 days.
  7. MAKE YOURSELF ATTRACTIVE INSIDE OUT – Be a loving human being , care and share for people as the child s 1st role model is his/her parents . Maintain a regular schedule of yoga, walking or some kind of exercise to keep yourself healthy and fit. If you’re a fashion conscious person wear the best clothes especially when he/she calls his friends home or when you go to school to meet the teachers. All this is important for the child.
  8. PROVIDE YOUR CHILD WITH A SUPPORTIVE AND LOVING ATMOSPHERE – Have a designated family time, do things that gets the family closer on daily basis. Share your thoughts and feelings with your family. This will set an example for the child and he will also be aware that home is a safe space to be in.

It’s not how big your home is , It’s how happy your home is that matters.

CONCLUSION
Allow your child to fly, don’t clip your child’s wings. Be his strength, Honour Parenting, as there is no job as important and tough as parenting. Enjoy the journey with your child rather than thinking about the destination.

Gratitude is the riches, complaints is poverty

It was a cool breezy day while I was sipping my hot cup of coffee in the hills of kodai, being a nature lover loved the chirping of the birds and the nippy cool air brushing my face and the smell of the wet Indian soil. I got into a deep thought of how I was in the self-pity party rather than counting my endless blessings. I was feeling sorry for myself for going through this feeling but had no control over it. The words of my mentor Puja Gupta echoed inside me –“Be Grateful” “Be Grateful “   That’s when I grabbed a piece of paper and pen, started penning down things I was grateful for. Initially it was hard but slowly I flowed smooth like a river and in no time I had written 5 gratitude’s to begin with. I felt a sense of fulfillment which made me feel joy from within.

Since then this practice of Gratitude has become a daily morning ritual which I follow and swear by. I believe Gratitude is a magic wand in my life which has made my life Magical.

Gratitude is a simple expression of appreciation and acknowledgement for the things, people and happiness we have in our lives. Being grateful opens the doors of abundance.

“Talk about your blessings more than talking about your problem “ . Automatically you will see how your happiness quotient will increase .

 

The USP OF GRATITUDE – When you’re in the space of Gratitude, You cannot go through any other feeling at the same time. Example – You cannot be grateful and angry at the same time you just FEEL GRATEFUL.

 

HOW TO WRITE GRATITUDE

  1. MAINTAIN A GRATITUDE JOURNAL–  The more you write down what you are grateful about, the more the Universe will answer your prayers. I have a gratitude book which is like a bible to me which I carry wherever I go . My morning takes off in a positive note as I write gratitude daily .  I also believe that the more you write it down the better you express the feeling......
  2. PRACTISE GRATITUDE WITH YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS – The more you express your feeling of gratitude the more closer your relationship will get with your family and friends. You can fix up a time for the family to come together over a meal where everyone express what they are grateful for , in this way you also get an insight of what is happening in each person’s life .

EXAMPLE- My husband and me write gratitude daily and read it aloud to each other, it fills the gap of the untold words and small things also get acknowledged.

  1. BE CONSISTENT –Especially when you are feeling low, writing down gratitude peps you up. Those will be the days it will be hard for you to write gratitude but if you muster the courage to write at least 3 gratitude’s it definitely will lift your mood. Try not to skip this ritual be consistent to see the positive results.

Even when I am travelling I carry my gratitude book which doesn’t allow me to skip it.

  1. BE SPECIFIC – The more specific and clear you are the better the magic of gratitude will work for you. Being specific really helps. It helps in counting your blessings and focusing on small things as well which we usually don’t give much importance to.
  2. HAVE AN ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNER – Having an accountability partner helps in creating a habit. It’s a WIN situation for both. Your accountability partner could be your Spouse, your best friend, your sibling or your child. This is a great practice where you get exclusive private time with your partner.

My close friend in is my accountability partner, we don’t stay in the same city yet we are connected with the string of accountability. We both write down 10-15 gratitude’s per day and WhatsApp it to each other, we give each other rewards and punishments too if the task is not completed, this is just our way of adding fun to this practice. You could also play around and have fun with GRATITUDE.

 

CONCLUSION

It has been scientifically proven that gratitude helps heal a person MENTALLY, PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY. A person lives a healthy life and a longer life too. Take time to acknowledge all the good things in your life and view it with grateful eyes.

So put on your thinking caps and pen down your gratitude’s of the day. IT’S TIME TO START NOW!!! WHERE IS YOUR PAPER AND PEN?